This blog is pretty similar to one I posted a year ago on the 17th of December.
There are two things I want to share this year. First, don't let people take away what you so strongly believe in and dream about and second, being satisfied, no happy, where you are in your life.
First...I have made a commitment to someone very important in my life. I've prayed for him for as long as I could remember, and I believe that I have been blessed to receive him. But, he didn't come to me perfect and there are things that he needs to address in him life that I can't help him with. Its not my place nor my call. But, I was speaking with someone last night and this gentleman was trying to get me to walk away from the commitment I made. He asked, "how long are you going to wait?" "I would think that if he wanted a relationship with you, he wouldn't have needed space." To be honest with you, this made me angry and then I heard what the Spirit was telling me....because of my FAITH in my prayer and in the man that I was blessed to receive, I'm not going to walk away because someone else wants to sway me away and have sex with me "one more time" because he thinks about me all the time. Goodness, that sounds so selfish. Doesn't it?
This brings me to the second item. I struggle a lot emotionally during the holiday session. Usually because I deal with much sadness and depression in my counseling practice, but, there have been a great deal of changes happening in my personal life that has brought about my own personal sadness. Then this morning, while I was thinking about the conversation I had with the gentleman the night before, I realized I am living my dream life. Roughly, four years ago, I was blessed to lose a job I really was tired of and it opened the door to allow me to do what I've dreamed of doing, writing and therapy. Not that it has been easy the whole way, and I still struggle, but, I am supposed to be happy and everything else will come, right?
We all live in the mindset of lacking. We lack this, we lack that and we never seem to be happy with anything that we already have. We aren't satisfied until we have more of something that we are only going to be unhappy with when we receive it. A night of pleasure with a different man isn't going to bring me happiness. It will only make me miserable, because I broke a promise to be there for someone when he was at his lowest. I have been blessed to be able to get another book in production for publishing and I wouldn't have been able to do that if I were working a full time, 60+ hour job.
My challenge to you this holiday season....take a moment and list all the things that you are grateful for. Don't worry about what you don't have, but, be glad you have what you do have. Take a moment and think about others who would love to have what you have right about now, a place to lay their head, a car to drive or a job to go to. You have the power within yourself to give yourself what you want or to continue to live in misery that you push away any kind of happiness. You have the power and its in them shoes.
(If you or someone you know is interested in spiritual coaching, I am accepting clients. Please email me at mindfulcoachingandtherapy@gmail.com)
Power in Expectancy
Yesterday morning the phrase, "Be in expectancy, but don't look for it." was whispered into my ear.
I was in quiet meditation and prayer about it. This morning it continued to ring in my ear. How many times have we prayed, hoped and dreamed for something and instead of leaving it alone, we've decided that we need to play with it? Or what my best friend says, "stir the flavor out of it." We say we have faith, yet, we can't stand in faith when it something that we want.
During this Christmas season and like every Christmas, I'm sure. We all want something, we pray for something but, unlike children, we stop believing that we are going to receive it. So, we've got to go out and try and make it happen. But I believe by doing this we are only pushing it further away instead of allowing the process to happen. I love the phrase, "A watched pot never boils" and this is so true. How many times have we said waiting by the mailbox, or a phone call that doesn't seem to come. We are looking for it. What does it mean to be in expectancy? I believe it means that what we've been praying for, dreaming of, or hoping on will come to pass.
In a counseling session and in most of my counseling session where someone is looking for their mate. I suggest they write down all the attributes of the person they desire to marry. And if they are believers to fold it up and place it in their Bible. They are now in expectancy. They have listed and maybe even prayed for their mate, but, now they are expecting them to come, but, they can't go out looking for him or her. They have to believe that they are going to receive that which they prayed for. This is being in expectancy.
We are empowered and being in expectancy is powerful. Believing in ourselves and having faith that we will receive what we've been praying for is empowering and powerful. We are empowered beings. We make choices daily about things that we want and what we don't want. Its being in expectancy.
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I was in quiet meditation and prayer about it. This morning it continued to ring in my ear. How many times have we prayed, hoped and dreamed for something and instead of leaving it alone, we've decided that we need to play with it? Or what my best friend says, "stir the flavor out of it." We say we have faith, yet, we can't stand in faith when it something that we want.
During this Christmas season and like every Christmas, I'm sure. We all want something, we pray for something but, unlike children, we stop believing that we are going to receive it. So, we've got to go out and try and make it happen. But I believe by doing this we are only pushing it further away instead of allowing the process to happen. I love the phrase, "A watched pot never boils" and this is so true. How many times have we said waiting by the mailbox, or a phone call that doesn't seem to come. We are looking for it. What does it mean to be in expectancy? I believe it means that what we've been praying for, dreaming of, or hoping on will come to pass.
In a counseling session and in most of my counseling session where someone is looking for their mate. I suggest they write down all the attributes of the person they desire to marry. And if they are believers to fold it up and place it in their Bible. They are now in expectancy. They have listed and maybe even prayed for their mate, but, now they are expecting them to come, but, they can't go out looking for him or her. They have to believe that they are going to receive that which they prayed for. This is being in expectancy.
We are empowered and being in expectancy is powerful. Believing in ourselves and having faith that we will receive what we've been praying for is empowering and powerful. We are empowered beings. We make choices daily about things that we want and what we don't want. Its being in expectancy.
#mindfulcoachingandtherapy #maryspeightlmft
Its been a long time
I'm back! Well, I'm not sure if that is a good thing or bad thing, but none the less, here I am.
I've taken some off from writing the blog, because of other projects, namely editing a book that will be published next year (3AM Conversation with God; Disappointment) and all the other daily living things that go on in one's life.
But there is something I want to talk about. Something that has been happening to me personally and professionally within my practice. Recently, I've prayed for discernment and clarity regarding a new relationship I'm in, as well as my writing career, and now moving into spiritual coaching. I've received my answers on all three of these concerns. The thing is once you've received the truth there is no turning back. We can't unlearn what we have learned.
A great deal of us would prefer to bury our head in the sand and pretend that everything is good, yet, continue to complain when things truly aren't, The truth is a powerful thing and we receive it everyday of our lives. I don't want to get the truth and reality mixed up. Reality is what is going on around you, these things that we know is true, but once we know the truth we can't un-know it. We can always change our reality, and than in turn will change our truth.
I had a personal experience yesterday. I had taken a Mary day because the anniversary of my father's death was coming and I needed a day for myself-to take care of myself. I had been praying about a new relationship and if it were going anywhere or if it were like the countless others that I've had. One of the things my beau says to me when I tell him I love him is, "Love you more".
I would get so excited when he'd say that and I'd reply, "I hope so."
Well, while I was out doing my shopping therapy, I came across some wooden signs that had sweet romantic comments or quotes. I read one and thought it sounded much like me and how I felt about my relationship. I was at the register and a bright red sign jumped out at me. It wasn't there before, I thought. I asked the sales person how much was the sign? She went to get it and returned with it. On the sign was the exact phrase that my beau says to me, "Love You More" I knew in an instant that was for me. That was a true sign from God that everything is going to be okay. I am on the right path with the relationship.
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The truth is a powerful thing and sometimes a lie can mask itself as truth, but that's when we pray for clarity and for discernment. We ask that our eyes be open to the truth. I cautioned a young married woman recently that once her eyes are opened to the truth, be careful, because we very well may not like what we see. She later told me she wasn't ready to know the truth, but, she needed to know it. The truth does set you free.
I hope this blog helps you in making a choice to live in a lie or in the truth. Remember you are empowered and you have the power to change your reality and in turn change your truth. I hope you are able to see the signs that are telling you the truth and reminding you that your power is in them shoes. Be blessed.
I've taken some off from writing the blog, because of other projects, namely editing a book that will be published next year (3AM Conversation with God; Disappointment) and all the other daily living things that go on in one's life.
But there is something I want to talk about. Something that has been happening to me personally and professionally within my practice. Recently, I've prayed for discernment and clarity regarding a new relationship I'm in, as well as my writing career, and now moving into spiritual coaching. I've received my answers on all three of these concerns. The thing is once you've received the truth there is no turning back. We can't unlearn what we have learned.
A great deal of us would prefer to bury our head in the sand and pretend that everything is good, yet, continue to complain when things truly aren't, The truth is a powerful thing and we receive it everyday of our lives. I don't want to get the truth and reality mixed up. Reality is what is going on around you, these things that we know is true, but once we know the truth we can't un-know it. We can always change our reality, and than in turn will change our truth.
I had a personal experience yesterday. I had taken a Mary day because the anniversary of my father's death was coming and I needed a day for myself-to take care of myself. I had been praying about a new relationship and if it were going anywhere or if it were like the countless others that I've had. One of the things my beau says to me when I tell him I love him is, "Love you more".
I would get so excited when he'd say that and I'd reply, "I hope so."
Well, while I was out doing my shopping therapy, I came across some wooden signs that had sweet romantic comments or quotes. I read one and thought it sounded much like me and how I felt about my relationship. I was at the register and a bright red sign jumped out at me. It wasn't there before, I thought. I asked the sales person how much was the sign? She went to get it and returned with it. On the sign was the exact phrase that my beau says to me, "Love You More" I knew in an instant that was for me. That was a true sign from God that everything is going to be okay. I am on the right path with the relationship.
The truth is a powerful thing and sometimes a lie can mask itself as truth, but that's when we pray for clarity and for discernment. We ask that our eyes be open to the truth. I cautioned a young married woman recently that once her eyes are opened to the truth, be careful, because we very well may not like what we see. She later told me she wasn't ready to know the truth, but, she needed to know it. The truth does set you free.
I hope this blog helps you in making a choice to live in a lie or in the truth. Remember you are empowered and you have the power to change your reality and in turn change your truth. I hope you are able to see the signs that are telling you the truth and reminding you that your power is in them shoes. Be blessed.
Getting Clear....Finding Clarity
I recently had a counseling session with a client and she mentioned the phrase, "God closes a door and opens a window." I reminded her that she needed to at least check the knob.
Sometimes, we think opportunities or even our dreams or desires are not always in line with the Will of God. I think sometimes what we want for ourselves can be in God's Will, but, it may not be the most perfect time to start off on a new career or moving to some place new, but, we don't always know this unless we at least check the knob. We assume that the door is closed and even locked, but, that isn't always the case. Sometimes out of fear we decide that what we want or desire isn't what God wants for us and we automatically assume because the one thing that we tried to move us into that direction didn't pan out, it wasn't meant to be. I believe that we can always try and we keep trying until all the doors and windows are closed and locked. And within that comes not being in the Will of God, but, God suggesting we try a different path, a different avenue, a different way of asking.
I've been sick with a sinus infection for such a long time (finally getting better). And there have been plenty of days I've been lying in bed exhausted, but not able to sleep, and feeling like I've got so much to do (running your own private practice isn't easy) and I was getting so far behind on everything, everything being paperwork and billing. But one day it became clear to me, I created that hell. I'm not saying that I purposely got sick, but, I think I ran and ran from what I wanted to do and I know I am in His Will. It was fear. Not going to lie, each time I write a blog post or think of writing a book, there are moments of fear and doubt that I'm not good enough, or I'm not going to measure up. But, I hear the prayer a man once prayed over me while on the phone. He asked God to remove the fear. The fear of writing and making myself heard. He told me, "You don't know your words may be what someone needs to hear." I have a saying I stole from someone and I love saying it, though I forget its true value some of the time, "What audacity I have to be afraid to do what I am being called to do."
Most of us know what we want out of life and some even know how to go after it and get it, but there are a good chunk that are afraid to even open the door to find the next door. God has given you the dream/desire and placed it on your heart and in doing that, he didn't close and lock all the doors, you have to step out in faith and at least place your hand on the knob and turn to find out if its locked and maybe that door didn't hold the right opportunity, keep checking the next ones. Remember, you have the power and its in them shoes.
Sometimes, we think opportunities or even our dreams or desires are not always in line with the Will of God. I think sometimes what we want for ourselves can be in God's Will, but, it may not be the most perfect time to start off on a new career or moving to some place new, but, we don't always know this unless we at least check the knob. We assume that the door is closed and even locked, but, that isn't always the case. Sometimes out of fear we decide that what we want or desire isn't what God wants for us and we automatically assume because the one thing that we tried to move us into that direction didn't pan out, it wasn't meant to be. I believe that we can always try and we keep trying until all the doors and windows are closed and locked. And within that comes not being in the Will of God, but, God suggesting we try a different path, a different avenue, a different way of asking.
I've been sick with a sinus infection for such a long time (finally getting better). And there have been plenty of days I've been lying in bed exhausted, but not able to sleep, and feeling like I've got so much to do (running your own private practice isn't easy) and I was getting so far behind on everything, everything being paperwork and billing. But one day it became clear to me, I created that hell. I'm not saying that I purposely got sick, but, I think I ran and ran from what I wanted to do and I know I am in His Will. It was fear. Not going to lie, each time I write a blog post or think of writing a book, there are moments of fear and doubt that I'm not good enough, or I'm not going to measure up. But, I hear the prayer a man once prayed over me while on the phone. He asked God to remove the fear. The fear of writing and making myself heard. He told me, "You don't know your words may be what someone needs to hear." I have a saying I stole from someone and I love saying it, though I forget its true value some of the time, "What audacity I have to be afraid to do what I am being called to do."
Most of us know what we want out of life and some even know how to go after it and get it, but there are a good chunk that are afraid to even open the door to find the next door. God has given you the dream/desire and placed it on your heart and in doing that, he didn't close and lock all the doors, you have to step out in faith and at least place your hand on the knob and turn to find out if its locked and maybe that door didn't hold the right opportunity, keep checking the next ones. Remember, you have the power and its in them shoes.
Mother's Day
So here we go....
I've not been feeling well these last few weeks. Started out with a sore back and then chest congestion, loss of voice and a cough that won't let up. Doc gave me antibiotics, but nothing is working. I called my mom and she asked, "What do you want me to do?" Mind you, my mom is 80 years old and she has ALWAYS mothered me, so I say, "Be my mom." She laughed and suggested a couple things and it felt like a warm hug.
Today is Mother's Day and I didn't get a chance to spend it with my mom because of the way I'm feeling. My voice is almost gone and the cough, well, its still hanging on, its relentless. I called my mom and she could hear that I wasn't any better and this time, instead of asking me what do you want me to do? She mothered me and said, "Go gargle with warm salt water." Funny, I've had others make that same suggestion and I just smiled and nodded, but, when Mommy said it, you can bet'cha I didn't just smile and nod, I got up and did exactly what I was told. I was a sickly kid growing up. Had pneumonia, twice, hospitalized twice. I had bronchitis often and even bronchial asthma growing up and though I didn't have the best relationship with my mother growing up, she was ALWAYS there taking care of me, "mothering" me and loving me back to health.
Mother's Day isn't always an easy day to celebrate for me, not because of my mother, but, because of a couple miscarriages I have suffered in my life. I grieve the loss of unfulfilled hopes and dreams for a child that wasn't able to come forth, but, knowing that my mother is still with me makes Mother's Day a little easier for me. I have been blessed to have many women in my life who have mothered me. Some of them have been my friends and other's mentors, teachers, supervisors and bosses. Women who have shared their knowledge and their strength with me. Today, not only do I celebrate it with my own mother, but with these countless women who have come and gone and even have remained in my life.
To you women who are reading this blog, you, too have inspired me and have enriched my life beyond measure. Whether you have given birth or not, nurtured a child of your own, or of someone else's you have empowered me to stay strong and positive and show compassion and to be compassionate. Today is your day to celebrate and shine!
Remember you have the power and its in them shoes!
I've not been feeling well these last few weeks. Started out with a sore back and then chest congestion, loss of voice and a cough that won't let up. Doc gave me antibiotics, but nothing is working. I called my mom and she asked, "What do you want me to do?" Mind you, my mom is 80 years old and she has ALWAYS mothered me, so I say, "Be my mom." She laughed and suggested a couple things and it felt like a warm hug.
Today is Mother's Day and I didn't get a chance to spend it with my mom because of the way I'm feeling. My voice is almost gone and the cough, well, its still hanging on, its relentless. I called my mom and she could hear that I wasn't any better and this time, instead of asking me what do you want me to do? She mothered me and said, "Go gargle with warm salt water." Funny, I've had others make that same suggestion and I just smiled and nodded, but, when Mommy said it, you can bet'cha I didn't just smile and nod, I got up and did exactly what I was told. I was a sickly kid growing up. Had pneumonia, twice, hospitalized twice. I had bronchitis often and even bronchial asthma growing up and though I didn't have the best relationship with my mother growing up, she was ALWAYS there taking care of me, "mothering" me and loving me back to health.
Mother's Day isn't always an easy day to celebrate for me, not because of my mother, but, because of a couple miscarriages I have suffered in my life. I grieve the loss of unfulfilled hopes and dreams for a child that wasn't able to come forth, but, knowing that my mother is still with me makes Mother's Day a little easier for me. I have been blessed to have many women in my life who have mothered me. Some of them have been my friends and other's mentors, teachers, supervisors and bosses. Women who have shared their knowledge and their strength with me. Today, not only do I celebrate it with my own mother, but with these countless women who have come and gone and even have remained in my life.
To you women who are reading this blog, you, too have inspired me and have enriched my life beyond measure. Whether you have given birth or not, nurtured a child of your own, or of someone else's you have empowered me to stay strong and positive and show compassion and to be compassionate. Today is your day to celebrate and shine!
Remember you have the power and its in them shoes!
New Beginnings Big Changes
Its been awhile since I've posted a blog, I'm sorry. But there have been some extraordinary things (Miracles) that have happened for me recently that has taken my time and attention.
My book 3AM Conversations with God; Disappointment has a publisher! I planned to self-publish in March, but Tate Publishing swooped in just in the nick of time. I will keep you posted on the release date.
I've also located and have leased and office space for my private practice in my current home city. I've decided to stop making the commute twice a week to my primary practice which is 55 miles one way. The office still isn't ready, but, it will be shortly.
Earlier this month I had a severe allergic reaction to something I ate and had to go to the hospital. I was smart enough to take a benadryl and claritin to slow the process of my throat closing off, and by the time I got to the ER, and just sat in the waiting room for an hour, I popped another benadryl and left without being seen. Yet, this experience has hung on me like a huge overcoat that I can't seem to shake off. I came across Dr. Wayne Dyer's post on Facebook this morning and he introduced Dr. William Davis's book The Wheat Belly as I was listening to the book (I purchased it), it struck me, maybe it was the tortilla of the tacos or the burrito I ate that caused the allergic reaction, because at first, my stomach became upset. I also have IBS, Irritable Bowel Syndrome and wheat or wheat products could cause inflammation. The idea is to eliminate all wheat and wheat products from my diet. I decided to purchase the cook book and will try this "experiment" on myself for five days. I will let you all know what the end result will be.
Around this same time, it struck me the next book in the 3AM Conversations with God series. It will centered around the death of ourselves in toxic relationships.
I'm calling these things Miracles because that's what they are. It was a miracle I didn't die from the allergic reaction, I'm moving into my own office, and being open to allow the Spirit to speak to and show me what I need to do to stay healthy, along with another book. Sometimes, it is so easy to just give up or give in to those things that frighten or overwhelm. To tell ourselves that we aren't going to make it so don't even try to save yourself or have a dream or idea. But, I believe that we all are entitled to our dreams, wants and desires and we are empowered to make these things happen for ourselves and sometimes we need a divine push every now and again. Don't be afraid to recognize that you have the power and its in them shoes!
My book 3AM Conversations with God; Disappointment has a publisher! I planned to self-publish in March, but Tate Publishing swooped in just in the nick of time. I will keep you posted on the release date.
I've also located and have leased and office space for my private practice in my current home city. I've decided to stop making the commute twice a week to my primary practice which is 55 miles one way. The office still isn't ready, but, it will be shortly.
Earlier this month I had a severe allergic reaction to something I ate and had to go to the hospital. I was smart enough to take a benadryl and claritin to slow the process of my throat closing off, and by the time I got to the ER, and just sat in the waiting room for an hour, I popped another benadryl and left without being seen. Yet, this experience has hung on me like a huge overcoat that I can't seem to shake off. I came across Dr. Wayne Dyer's post on Facebook this morning and he introduced Dr. William Davis's book The Wheat Belly as I was listening to the book (I purchased it), it struck me, maybe it was the tortilla of the tacos or the burrito I ate that caused the allergic reaction, because at first, my stomach became upset. I also have IBS, Irritable Bowel Syndrome and wheat or wheat products could cause inflammation. The idea is to eliminate all wheat and wheat products from my diet. I decided to purchase the cook book and will try this "experiment" on myself for five days. I will let you all know what the end result will be.
Around this same time, it struck me the next book in the 3AM Conversations with God series. It will centered around the death of ourselves in toxic relationships.
I'm calling these things Miracles because that's what they are. It was a miracle I didn't die from the allergic reaction, I'm moving into my own office, and being open to allow the Spirit to speak to and show me what I need to do to stay healthy, along with another book. Sometimes, it is so easy to just give up or give in to those things that frighten or overwhelm. To tell ourselves that we aren't going to make it so don't even try to save yourself or have a dream or idea. But, I believe that we all are entitled to our dreams, wants and desires and we are empowered to make these things happen for ourselves and sometimes we need a divine push every now and again. Don't be afraid to recognize that you have the power and its in them shoes!
Personal and Empowered Journey
WOW!
Just realized its been a while since I've posted anything.
I do have a reason for that, I've been on a personal and empowered journey. I've not gone anywhere fancy or too expensive, I've actually stayed in my home and have allowed God/Source/Universe to speak with me. I have been trying to be in quiet meditation and contemplation.
On the 6th of March I began a physical for a job I've accepted for extra income. I almost didn't pass the physical due to my blood pressure being too high and I wasn't able to reduce it without the aid of a little pill. I was so discouraged and so frustrated with myself. It was an emotionally exhausting day. What should had been a pretty clear cut physical, took roughly 5 hours to complete. Prior to this, the end of February, I had made a decision about my relationship with the gentleman I call Cowboy. We both came to an agreement due to his current job having him live out of state and that it has been over 2 years since we've spent any time together, it was best to not keep things so heavy (not exclusively dating). Another, although, I am okay with it, emotionally taxing situation.
I have since found a business group called Business Miracles and I am participating in the 21-day Course in Business Miracles. It has opened my eyes and my heart to what it is that I am truly called and do in my business, not just my personal life, though my personal life is tied, as it should be. I have come to see real clarity and I have begun allowing space for things to happen to bring about miracles or what some would call manifestations. I feel myself being stretched, pulled, tugged and on occasion dragged to places within me I wasn't familiar with, oh, I knew they were there, but, I hadn't truly paid attention to them. Places like real wants and desires and needs, along with what I am really meant to do and offer to this world, my community, family and friends. Very liberating, empowering and producing such a huge impact.
My challenge for you is find time to go on your own personal and empowerment journey. You don't need to go anywhere, maybe just sit in your backyard for a few days (Spring is coming) and allow the Universe/Source or God to speak with you, guide or direct you in the direction of your purpose, as well as your wants, needs and desires. You have the power to make these changes, you have the choice to accept them as who you are and what you are to contribute and do or be.
Have faith in yourself and remember, the power is in them shoes!
#mindfulcoachingandtherapy
Just realized its been a while since I've posted anything.
I do have a reason for that, I've been on a personal and empowered journey. I've not gone anywhere fancy or too expensive, I've actually stayed in my home and have allowed God/Source/Universe to speak with me. I have been trying to be in quiet meditation and contemplation.
On the 6th of March I began a physical for a job I've accepted for extra income. I almost didn't pass the physical due to my blood pressure being too high and I wasn't able to reduce it without the aid of a little pill. I was so discouraged and so frustrated with myself. It was an emotionally exhausting day. What should had been a pretty clear cut physical, took roughly 5 hours to complete. Prior to this, the end of February, I had made a decision about my relationship with the gentleman I call Cowboy. We both came to an agreement due to his current job having him live out of state and that it has been over 2 years since we've spent any time together, it was best to not keep things so heavy (not exclusively dating). Another, although, I am okay with it, emotionally taxing situation.
I have since found a business group called Business Miracles and I am participating in the 21-day Course in Business Miracles. It has opened my eyes and my heart to what it is that I am truly called and do in my business, not just my personal life, though my personal life is tied, as it should be. I have come to see real clarity and I have begun allowing space for things to happen to bring about miracles or what some would call manifestations. I feel myself being stretched, pulled, tugged and on occasion dragged to places within me I wasn't familiar with, oh, I knew they were there, but, I hadn't truly paid attention to them. Places like real wants and desires and needs, along with what I am really meant to do and offer to this world, my community, family and friends. Very liberating, empowering and producing such a huge impact.
My challenge for you is find time to go on your own personal and empowerment journey. You don't need to go anywhere, maybe just sit in your backyard for a few days (Spring is coming) and allow the Universe/Source or God to speak with you, guide or direct you in the direction of your purpose, as well as your wants, needs and desires. You have the power to make these changes, you have the choice to accept them as who you are and what you are to contribute and do or be.
Have faith in yourself and remember, the power is in them shoes!
#mindfulcoachingandtherapy
Power of Negative Energy
This morning I created a podcast:
http://mindfulcoachingandtherapy.podomatic.com/entry/2014-02-18T09_37_37-08_00
I do hope you click the link and listen in.
I'm talking about negative energy and the power it has to zap and affect your mood. Are you feeling grumpy or constantly in a nasty mood? I challenge you to get rid of that negativity. We are going to be affected by negative energy at some point, but how do we get rid of it and move on?
http://mindfulcoachingandtherapy.podomatic.com/entry/2014-02-18T09_37_37-08_00
I do hope you click the link and listen in.
I'm talking about negative energy and the power it has to zap and affect your mood. Are you feeling grumpy or constantly in a nasty mood? I challenge you to get rid of that negativity. We are going to be affected by negative energy at some point, but how do we get rid of it and move on?
Celebrating my mom
This is my family on New Year's Eve, minus me.
This next week will be my mother's 80th birthday and I keep thinking about how all her children will be there to celebrate this day with her. I also think about how she raised me and my siblings. We had both my parents, my father never left my mom or his family. Both people were very strong willed and at the same time, pretty level headed.
My mom and my father were the disciplinarians in the home, they didn't advocate the rule to either one. They both ruled together and they were united. But there was something about my mom, like most mothers, I'm sure that really set her apart. Recently, I heard my oldest sister telling my mom that she appreciated her and how she was the best mom for us kids. That is so true. She went on to explain to my mom that she never made us feel like we were worthless or that we weren't going to amount to much in life. She has always been supportive and encouraging. I didn't have the best relationship with my mom growing up, but, I'd have to agree with my sister, my mom never treated me poorly. She did her best coming to a country that was foreign and tried to raise her daughter the way her mother would have raised her and her siblings, yet, that was a different custom. Two very different cultures, and what I am sure must of felt like worlds apart.
When I think about my empowerment, I think about my mom. I think of how she met a man, a total stranger and after several failed proposals (on his part) he was able to get her to marry him and bring her to a country she knew so little about and how she made a life for herself here with no friends and definitely no family. Everything she knew she left in her home country. Talk about power and empowerment. She was brave and courageous and a real risk taker. That just amazes me.
I don't know what your relationship was like with your mother, or if she was there for you when you were growing up and in my practice I teach women who feel they didn't get all they needed from their mothers, that they need to give themselves what they believe is missing. You do have the power to be strong and courageous. You can be the risk taker and the adventurer. You are empowered, you aren't the victim of your circumstances, you can make those changes and face all the challenges life throws at you. You have the power and its in them shoes.
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Why are we so mean?
I am going to try very hard not to get on a soap box here, but, I've got to say this...
I recently read a comment on Facebook on, of all things, a page for lingerie. One woman complained they didn't carry her size and another woman replied calling her a bitch for complaining. What is wrong with us women? Why do we find the need to put another woman down when both appear to be very unhappy with life circumstances? I don't get it? Are we that jealous of others? Really?
Please tell me one woman who is truly and completely, utterly happy with her body? I can almost guarantee you there isn't but a handful of women who can say they are truly, completely and utterly happy with her body just like it is. I can tell you that I am not completely happy with mine, and I'm 46 years old. I have friends of different shapes and sizes and they aren't happy with their's, either, but, I don't hear us complaining and calling each other names, maliciously, because one size fits another better than the other. As women we are a pretty powerful being. We have been given the ability to carry and give birth (if we are lucky), but, as a human being, we were created to be the nurturer, to be wise and show and teach compassion. I am no Mother Theresa, by any stretch and I am definitely not a saint, but, I do know that I share the similar complaints in this world as a lot of women, but, I am not relinquishing my power to belittle, degrade, or defame another person because my complaint isn't any greater than anyone else.
Remember, you have the power to change yourself. If you are unhappy with how you look or even what you do in this life, change it! You have the power and the knowledge to do so. You are empowered to be better than you want to be and you can lift others up in the process not bring them down because you aren't happy with your station in life. Before you react to someone in anger, stop and think of what you are going to say and do and ask yourself, "How come this affects me so deeply that I need to bully or be mean to another?" We don't know the other person's circumstance and we don't need to, we know our own and we really ought to "check ourselves" before we lash out.
You have the power and its in them shoes. Be kind to one another.
#Ladies,thepowerisinthemshoes #mindfulcoachingandtherapy
I recently read a comment on Facebook on, of all things, a page for lingerie. One woman complained they didn't carry her size and another woman replied calling her a bitch for complaining. What is wrong with us women? Why do we find the need to put another woman down when both appear to be very unhappy with life circumstances? I don't get it? Are we that jealous of others? Really?
Please tell me one woman who is truly and completely, utterly happy with her body? I can almost guarantee you there isn't but a handful of women who can say they are truly, completely and utterly happy with her body just like it is. I can tell you that I am not completely happy with mine, and I'm 46 years old. I have friends of different shapes and sizes and they aren't happy with their's, either, but, I don't hear us complaining and calling each other names, maliciously, because one size fits another better than the other. As women we are a pretty powerful being. We have been given the ability to carry and give birth (if we are lucky), but, as a human being, we were created to be the nurturer, to be wise and show and teach compassion. I am no Mother Theresa, by any stretch and I am definitely not a saint, but, I do know that I share the similar complaints in this world as a lot of women, but, I am not relinquishing my power to belittle, degrade, or defame another person because my complaint isn't any greater than anyone else.
Remember, you have the power to change yourself. If you are unhappy with how you look or even what you do in this life, change it! You have the power and the knowledge to do so. You are empowered to be better than you want to be and you can lift others up in the process not bring them down because you aren't happy with your station in life. Before you react to someone in anger, stop and think of what you are going to say and do and ask yourself, "How come this affects me so deeply that I need to bully or be mean to another?" We don't know the other person's circumstance and we don't need to, we know our own and we really ought to "check ourselves" before we lash out.
You have the power and its in them shoes. Be kind to one another.
#Ladies,thepowerisinthemshoes #mindfulcoachingandtherapy
Freedoms
Hi,
I was thinking about MLK day today and the freedoms that so many of us take for granted.
I'm not going to go into the politics of things or the discussion of race rights or even women rights, but, what I am going to blog about is the power freedom holds.
Everyday we seem to be enslaved to something, whether its our career, our kids, our marriage, our relationships in general, etc., but, most of us feel from time to time we are slave to something and we feel we are forever that captive. But, life doesn't have to be that way. We can choose to be free or we can choose to be to enslaved, its that simple. I hear some of you now, balking at this idea, but, it is true. Once we stop blaming our situation or circumstance on other things or other people, we will be free. Granted, most of us will need jobs and we need money, and we aren't willing to give up our children or families, or marriages, etc., but, the minute we stop the victim mentality, stop feeling sorry for ourselves, we will be FREE. Nothing in this life is perfect, even snowflakes are imperfect, but they are also perfect because they are free. Butterflies aren't perfect, but they are free. We aren't perfect, but, we can be free if we only allow ourselves to be ourselves and live life not on its terms, but our own.
Freedom was fought for each and everyone of us in some why shape or form, doesn't matter where you've come from, how you got here, or even what your belief, our freedom was fought for in many different ways, from human to spiritual, why would we continue to allow ourselves to remain victims to the unpleasant things in our lives. No matter what your dream, it is within your power to receive it, even not accept it, if it were handed to you on a platter. You don't have to be a slave to anything in your life. I challenger you today to explore for yourself where you feel you are a victim and let yourself free. Remember, the Power is in them shoes!
#mindfulcoachingandtherapy
I was thinking about MLK day today and the freedoms that so many of us take for granted.
I'm not going to go into the politics of things or the discussion of race rights or even women rights, but, what I am going to blog about is the power freedom holds.
Everyday we seem to be enslaved to something, whether its our career, our kids, our marriage, our relationships in general, etc., but, most of us feel from time to time we are slave to something and we feel we are forever that captive. But, life doesn't have to be that way. We can choose to be free or we can choose to be to enslaved, its that simple. I hear some of you now, balking at this idea, but, it is true. Once we stop blaming our situation or circumstance on other things or other people, we will be free. Granted, most of us will need jobs and we need money, and we aren't willing to give up our children or families, or marriages, etc., but, the minute we stop the victim mentality, stop feeling sorry for ourselves, we will be FREE. Nothing in this life is perfect, even snowflakes are imperfect, but they are also perfect because they are free. Butterflies aren't perfect, but they are free. We aren't perfect, but, we can be free if we only allow ourselves to be ourselves and live life not on its terms, but our own.
Freedom was fought for each and everyone of us in some why shape or form, doesn't matter where you've come from, how you got here, or even what your belief, our freedom was fought for in many different ways, from human to spiritual, why would we continue to allow ourselves to remain victims to the unpleasant things in our lives. No matter what your dream, it is within your power to receive it, even not accept it, if it were handed to you on a platter. You don't have to be a slave to anything in your life. I challenger you today to explore for yourself where you feel you are a victim and let yourself free. Remember, the Power is in them shoes!
#mindfulcoachingandtherapy
Being uncomfortable until comfortable happens
My first VLOG!!!! Yeah!!!
There is a saying that goes something like this....when you are the most uncomfortable is when comfortable is on its way. Stay focused and committed to your goals and dreams and they will happen for you. May not be today or tomorrow or even next week, but, they are on their way. Remember, you hold the power to make the changes you wish to see in your life. The power is in them shoes!
Replenishing the Soul
Holiday decorations are down. I've created several goal lists for 2014 (not resolutions) and tucked them away in my Bible. I know some folks have a prayer box, that's cool, too. But, I don't know about you, yet when I think of my list(s) the goals feel like they are the most overwhelming things in the world, maybe this is why we don't do resolutions or keep them. I am always suggesting to not bite off more than you can chew in life, but, that is so easier said than done.
The two things I have decided not to bring into 2014 from last year, was procrastination and a negative attitude. Well, I'd like to think I'm doing a pretty good job with not procrastinating, in fact, I've met some other goals because of it. YAY! But, lately, my attitude has SUCKED (Excuse me), but it has. I've not written a blog in a bit, because of it and I am sorry, I am working on it.
It is empowering to recognize when you are making progress and where you are not. When you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed, or frustrated, try doing something creative to break out of those feelings or even thoughts. I'm not sure if its good or bad, but, I think I came up with an idea for one of my goals for 2014, but, you've got to stay tuned to find out if I will follow through.
Remember, you also have the power to make any and all changes in your life. Don't be a victim to your circumstances or even the situation, the fact of the matter is, you have the ability to get up and walk away, either emotionally, mentally or physically. I do hope 2014 has started out great for you, though we are going to have some minor set backs, but remember, the power is in them shoes.
#mindfulcoachingandtherapy
The two things I have decided not to bring into 2014 from last year, was procrastination and a negative attitude. Well, I'd like to think I'm doing a pretty good job with not procrastinating, in fact, I've met some other goals because of it. YAY! But, lately, my attitude has SUCKED (Excuse me), but it has. I've not written a blog in a bit, because of it and I am sorry, I am working on it.
It is empowering to recognize when you are making progress and where you are not. When you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed, or frustrated, try doing something creative to break out of those feelings or even thoughts. I'm not sure if its good or bad, but, I think I came up with an idea for one of my goals for 2014, but, you've got to stay tuned to find out if I will follow through.
Remember, you also have the power to make any and all changes in your life. Don't be a victim to your circumstances or even the situation, the fact of the matter is, you have the ability to get up and walk away, either emotionally, mentally or physically. I do hope 2014 has started out great for you, though we are going to have some minor set backs, but remember, the power is in them shoes.
#mindfulcoachingandtherapy
What are you NOT taking into 2014?
"Keep tight inside of them—their magic must be very
powerful, or she wouldn't want them so badly!" -Glinda
Remember the power is in them shoes.
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